I was talking about improving relationship qualities and assessing them to take it to the next level. There is something called Relationship IQ. We have heard of IQ, EIQ (EQ) but what is this Relationship IQ?
If you are as excited as I’m then keep reading to unravel the hidden mysteries behind Relationship IQ. Some people score higher in this field but yet there is always more room to improve.
There are 7 key areas, or points of conflict, that most people identify as the cause of their break-ups. They may sound familiar. They are related to sex, money, in-laws, infidelity, other friends, work, and quality time together.
While these seven areas seem relatively common, what many people may not realize is that these conflict areas are not always the root of the problem. Oftentimes they are more symptomatic of underlying issues — issues that can undermine even the strongest of relationships. But in order to resolve conflicts in your relationship, you need to clearly define the areas that are causing you, or have the potential to cause, the biggest problems between you and your partner.
Once you do that, you can figure out whether you can solve your problems through better communication, by making changes to your behavior, or with problem-solving techniques. By focusing on fixing each and any of these conflict areas, the relationship
is better equipped to flourish.
You may find that simply acknowledging any problems may make a positive difference in your relationship. Or, you may find that it will take a lot more work, using communication, behavior modification, and problem solving. The areas that are checked below are contributing to the conflict in your relationship.
Financial concerns cause problems for many couples. Typically it isn’t just the money that is the issue, it is usually what the money is spent on or the emotional value the money holds to each person, which may be different for you and your partner. You’ll want to make sure that you continue to have a healthy relationship about money with your partner and to make sure that you are both open in discussing if anything does come up around monetary issues.
In-laws are often a source of conflict for couples regardless of whether or not you and
your partner like your in-laws. Stress concerning in-laws more often revolves not around
specific personas, but more around the time and responsibility that is demanded of the
couple by the in-laws. Jealousy and guilt — feelings that you should be spending more time
with your own parents, rather than your in-laws — may develop as well.
Understanding that you’ll want to make sure that you continue to have a healthy relationship around your in-laws with your partner and to make sure that you are both open in discussing if anything does come up around this topic.
Infidelity is a serious problem that has the potential to dissolve ties and weaken or
destroy the foundation of a relationship. Typically it isn’t just the infidelity that is the issue; it is the trust that is broken and the poor communication between the couple that is the catalyst for the cheating, or that results from the cheating.
A couple’s friends can oftentimes cause stress on their relationship. These stresses can be
caused by different personalities and whether or not you like or get along with your
partner’s friends. But oftentimes the issue goes a bit deeper. You and your partner
might get jealous when the other makes plans with or spends time with friends. And
these feelings can affect your relationship in a bad way.
Work is a common source of conflict for couples. Typically it isn’t just the work that
is the issue; it is the allocation of time spent at work and the importance placed on work that can get in the way of your relationship.
Quality time is a source of conflict for many couples. This is most often because failing
to make time together — often due to busy schedules or competing interests and priorities — can leave partners wanting more.